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GIRLS TALK : REAL TALK REVIVING MARRIAGES & PREPARING SINGLES

Here are 7 ways a wife injures her husband (without even knowing it):

1. Put him down in front of other people. Most men will not counter this type of humiliation in public…if ever. They will simply take it…and hurt. If they do eventually address it will be out of stored up resentment…maybe anger…and it won’t be pretty.
2. Go behind him when he tries to do something at home. Always show him how much better you can do things than he can do them. He will appreciate that. When he fixes the bed…make sure you show him the “correct way” immediately after he finishes. He will be reminded he doesn’t measure up to your standards.
3. Constantly badger him. If he doesn’t do what you want him to do …remind him. Again and again (Because that accomplishes what you want it to do).
4. Use the “you always” phrase … excessively. Because he “always” does and, best news yet, it helps build him into a man that always will.
5. Hold him responsible for your emotional wellbeing. He’s the reason you feel bad today and every other day you feel bad. So, make sure he knows it’s his fault. And, you don’t have to tell him. Subtly, just be in a bad mood towards him, without releasing him from guilt. He’ll take the hint and own the responsibility. He will think it’s his fault even if it’s not.
6. Complain about what you don’t have or get to do. He has a desire to fix things. He wants to be a provider. Every man does. Some attempt to live it out and some don’t. But, when he’s trying, doing the best he can and yet he feels he isn’t measuring up, he’s crushed. When you are always commenting on what other women have that you don’t, he carries the blame, even if you’re not intending it to be his.
7. Don’t appreciate his efforts. Want to injure a man? Refuse to appreciate the things he feels he does well. It could be work, a hobby or a trait, but he feels part of his identity in the things he does. When you don’t find them as “valuable” as he does, his ego is bruised.

What are some of other things a wife injures her husband (without even knowing it):

GIRLS TALK TOPIC TODAY : COUPLE’S M.O.T

GIRLS TALK. REAL TALK REVIVING MARRIAGES & PREPARING SINGLES

Just like a good driver takes his lovely car for MOT, so marriages need a check after every 6 months. In TKC our ArchBishop always will advice all married couples to book appointment for their MOT. Either ourselves or our church marriage Counsellors. For long time since been offering this service to many, I found out there are 7 TRUTHS AND GREAT HELP when you seek for the couples MOT. Have you ever considered this for your relationship? Many neglect couples MOT service but those who choose normally benefits a lot.
Judges 18:5-6 And they said unto him, Ask counsel, we pray thee, of God, that we may know whether our way which we go shall be prosperous. And the priest said unto them, Go in peace: before the Lord is your way wherein ye go.
Psalm 33:11 The counsel of the Lord standeth for ever, the thoughts of his heart to all generations.

Here 7 Truths about it :

1. YOUR RELATIONSHIP DOESN’T HAVE TO BE IN TROUBLE IN ORDER TO GO FOR MOT THERAPY

Couples MOT believed to be best for their relationship and makes a good point after all. Couples MOT therapy is for anyone. Some people go because their relationship is on the rocks, but others go because they’ve hit a minor bump or for prevention of problems occurring.

2. IT’S A PLACE YOU CAN BE REAL AND SHARE YOUR HEART

One beautiful thing about couples MOT therapy is that it’s a place you can be real with one another. The goal is to share your hearts and reach understanding. Sometimes you don’t always do that in relationships. It’s easy to hide your feelings because you’re afraid of confrontation. You might be afraid of sharing your heart because you don’t want to be that vulnerable. Couples MOT therapy makes it easier for both of those things to take place.

3. YOUR MOT THERAPIST CAN HELP YOU BY PLAYING MEDIATOR

Your MOT therapist is your friend. They can help you navigate the rough waters of your relationship. It’s almost as if they hold up a caution light when things become heated. They can help you redirect your conversations and find common ground. One of the biggest parts of your therapist’s job is to be your mediator. They pray for you and your marriage too.

4. YOU’LL LEARN SKILLS ON HOW TO COMMUNICATE IN A HEALTHY WAY

One of the best parts of couples MOT therapy is learning how to communicate in a healthy way. Your MOT therapist’s goal is to teach you the skills you need so that your relationship can be at its best. Learning better ways to communicate is always a good idea. Many times the problems that occur in relationships are from misunderstandings in communication. Learning to communicate better could practically eliminate that.

5. YOUR MOT THERAPIST CAN DIAGNOSE PROBLEM AREAS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

You might be in a situation where the same issue keeps coming up. It never seems to be resolved. Your MOT therapist could be of great help here. They have the unique perspective of an outsider coupled with the knowledge of a professional. They deal with situations like yours every day so they can cut right to the heart of it.

6. EVERY COUPLE HAS DIFFERENT NEEDS FROM MOT THERAPY

Every couple is unique and every couple’s issues are unique. You may not be going to MOT therapy for the same reason as the couple before you and that’s okay. Concern yourself less with the reasons other people go to couple’s MOT therapy and concentrate on your own relationship. Don’t let MOT therapy make you feel like your relationship is doomed. Choose to view it as something healthy you’re doing for the future of your relationship.

7. YOU COULD ACTUALLY END UP LOVING COUPLES MOT THERAPY

Couples MOT therapy could end up being the highlight of your week. It could be a time when you really connect with one another. It’s true that some upsetting issues may have to be addressed, but that could help you emerge as a stronger couple. That’s a goal that every couple wants to reach. Couples MOT therapy could be a wonderful thing for you.

The BIG reasons in relationships for seeking the COUPLES MOT THERAPY include:

1.Sense of something missing/lost in the relationship
2.Lack of communication with spouse
3.Escalating arguments/ circular arguments
4.Loss of intimacy and sexual desire
5.Impact of professional life on the relationship
6.Adapting to marriage or becoming parents

7.Impact of post natal depression on the relationship
8.Feeling badly treated by your spouse
9 Repeating destructive relationship patterns
10. Infidelity
11.Avoid Divorce and separation
12. Renewal of vows

Judges 18:5-6 And they said unto him, Ask counsel, we pray thee, of God, that we may know whether our way which we go shall be prosperous. And the priest said unto them, Go in peace: before the Lord is your way wherein ye go.
Psalm 33:11 The counsel of the Lord standeth for ever, the thoughts of his heart to all generations.